How to Stop Panicking and Make Love Again: A Stressful Intimate Life

First decide if you really feel bad about the lack of sex or if it’s just a routine that you miss. maybe your partner is complaining that you are having less sex. In general, start by listening to yourself: do you really need sex right now, or do you not feel you have a resource for it. After all, sex, if it’s not solo games, requires feedback: conversations, hugs, some kind of interactivity.

Try talking to your partner about how to remove unnecessary things. Say you want to have sex, but can’t find the strength to talk to him before or after. It’s okay to voice your problems and try to solve them together.

If you understand that it’s better for you to go without sex now, then that’s okay. Sex won’t run away from you, it’s not the last bus. But mental health is a fragile thing, it must be protected.

Whether it’s erotic stories, audio porn, or primitive showers, if it works, great. Relax, spend time with yourself. No pressure, no rush. Just try turning your head off for fifteen minutes (or as long as you want) on your own.

Does everything work as it should when you’re alone? If so, try to figure out what you’re missing in sex with a partner from what you get from masturbation.

Yes, there are purely “mechanical” methods. Among them are clitoral stimulating agents (usually warming) or liquid vibrators. For example, Shunga Dragon has one: you apply it to the head of the clitoris and penis (optional), and it gives you waves of heat, which are replaced by waves of cool. Blood rushes to the genitals, you get excited and finish faster. Liquid vibrators will give you a slightly different feeling: they will seem to vibrate.

Remember to test everything in the crook of your elbow first to make sure you don’t have an allergic reaction.

If you don’t orgasm during sex with a partner (or not just with a partner), it’s insulting, but not deadly. Was it before? When did he disappear? Let me guess, when did it all start? That means he’ll come back as a cub, he won’t go anywhere. But the more you think about how to get your orgasm back, the further it will get away from you.

Orgasm occurs when you are relaxed and happy. So, as sex blogger Elena Galetskaya says, “leave yourself alone.”