Love from a distance: the rapprochement is not expected

“Udalenka” in love arises for various reasons. Someone breaks out a virtual romance with a stranger, someone develops a vacation romance in this way, and sometimes an ordinary couple is separated by circumstances where one of the two has to go away for a long time. The latter case is painful, but in fact it all depends on the strength of the relationship at the time of separation – if they were strong, most likely they will stay and the couple will reunite as soon as possible.

Much more difficult when it gradually becomes apparent that you are generally not reluctant to keep your distance. For the other side, it’s usually a bad surprise; by default, she believed that distance was an obstacle that had to be overcome and live happily together forever.

You will be surprised, but no, the world is full of people who don’t fight for it.

For example, men who can’t stand intimacy. They have a big problem with having someone next to them all the time, they only appreciate flashes of passion and don’t want the everyday. For these people, long-distance relationships seem stable and secure: they know that the woman they love will never move in with them or become commonplace. A kind of vacation that is not always with you, and thank God.

As a result, one day there comes a time when you realize that your personal life is 90% in front of the screen, you have already learned how to do makeup taking into account the peculiarities of the camera and gender … eh well, either virtual or every few months.

For love from a distance, when people sometimes come to visit, some rather destructive signs are characteristic.

For example, a quarrel on the last day before departure is not an accident. It looks like we had a great time, why ruin it in the final? But it happens to a lot of couples. The closer the separation, the more acutely the man understands that you will leave now and continue part of your wonderful life without him, and he will remain in the same place. And then he starts getting nervous and quarreling, even though you don’t give a reason. And sometimes it happens because he is simply tired of your society, the intensity of emotions and already wants to be alone.

Over time, long-distance relationships deteriorate because you both tire without development. It is indeed very important for us to develop relationships, even if we are not aware of it. When you realize that there is no future together ahead of you, that year after year you will meet for a short time and then go home, you feel discouraged, even if the time spent together is always marvellous.

And not only women are unhappy with this. It would seem that if a man has intimacy issues, what doesn’t he like about such a scenario? Well, you see, he doesn’t know he has intimacy issues. He believes he just hasn’t met “the one”. Theoretically, he wants a family, but with a perfect girl who isn’t you.

With a high probability, your distant friend will torment you with jealousy. He finds it hard to believe that you are there, at home, remaining faithful to him. Men who are prone to adultery themselves are especially jealous.

And it’s not even that they’re too sexy and can’t last a month or two. Anxiety and lack of confidence are largely to blame. A man begins to imagine your hectic sex life and out of irritation also seeks adventure. Or vice versa, he is tired of waiting for you and makes excuses for himself – “Yes, she definitely has someone!”.

Long distance relationship scenarios may differ, but it’s best to keep in mind that when they drag on, it most likely means they don’t have a future. Men who do not like to live like this try to close the distance as soon as possible.

If a person is not in a hurry, he probably consciously chooses a long-distance relationship and is not too suitable for a permanent existence as a couple.

Then it makes sense to use him only as a holiday lover, not to try to settle in the same house with him and not to spoil an easy and easy relationship. Although such relationships can be called easy very conditionally, because, as has been said, jealousy, betrayal and attempts to encroach on your freedom are possible.

But I have to admit there’s a lot of passion in there. Distances, separations and encounters each time throw you to an unprecedented emotional height, then drop you into the abyss. If you really need to experience a stable and boring life, it might be a good idea to support remote work, it definitely entertains.

But do not forget to look around you, the surrounding men who can be with you not only in the form of pixels on the screen, but also in the flesh.