Furious and Dangerous: How to Get Revenge on the Elder

Yes, it’s indecent to say it out loud, not in a Christian and overly petty way, but let’s be honest – I want revenge. Also, the range of wishes usually goes from “so that he dies” to “so that he understands and comes back”, and the first does not exclude the second, first he died, then came back, sobbing on the doorstep, and I, proud, wouldn’t let him in. Of course he died.

The smug mantra “I let go and move on” doesn’t help when you want to catch up, kick your feet and get him to crawl after you, beaten.

The task of a woman is thus divided into two directions: to hurt the traitor as much as possible and to inflate herself to a new level of quality of life. In this sense, the female audience’s advice “Just become happy for him in spite of” is not bad, especially if “in spite of” together, but how to do it, they do not write there, so let’s go in small steps.

The idea of ​​inflicting pain is rich, but here one must observe the measure. Do you know where the pain points in your love lie? What is he afraid of, what are his fears, complexes and frustrations? You probably know this, and then I recommend that you look at yourself in this direction right away, but are your pain points well covered? If, in response, he begins to fight against your pride, it may turn out to be unpleasant. Do you remember how much personal and painful things you poured into him in moments of darkened love – back then it was called “opening the soul”.

Women who firmly believe that the first one is too stupid and that they are safe do not deny themselves anything after the break. They say and write anything on social networks, without naming names, but in such a way that the fiery arrows in the direction of the traitor literally hang in the air. These are quite fun to watch, but slightly compromising for both. Obviously the guy is insignificant, but the lady is far from indifference, somehow he hooked her, gorgeous. Therefore, if you still chose this tactic, leave no trace, it is better to gossip with your girlfriends, but do not register your vulnerability and pain on social networks.

Women who believe themselves to be smarter and higher than vulgar quarrels sometimes take quite material revenge – they harm the former in her affairs, for example, if they leverage reputation or gain access to information about his finances. In our wonderful time, the toolbox is surprisingly wide: someone notifies business partners that someone is unreliable, someone writes a report … well, say, to the tax office. This, of course, is the path of a tough fighter, but, again, it helps to understand if you yourself are well covered in the same business aspects as the amount of incriminating evidence in his hands. You must also weigh your reputational risks: if you are too mean and vindictive with your business partners, it will end up hurting you. Another problem is the flexibility of your own consciousness; in the heat of the moment, you may do something that you will later be painfully ashamed of. In itself, the task of closing the doors to the first, at least not to meet him again, is normal. But every next step must be considered ethically: will I remain a decent woman in the eyes of significant people and, above all, in my own? If there is a risk of a negative response, stop. Consciousness is like the bones of the body, while everything is in order, you don’t think about it, but if you break even a little finger, life turns into hell.

The surest way to level yourself up is to succeed so he realizes his loss. And, no, here it won’t help build lips, hair and chest, that’s not quite where a man competes with you. Although putting the body in order is a good plan, it is an important tool in all our endeavours, a cheerful beautiful person is on average more productive than a neglected and cowardly person. In fact, the main disadvantage of positive means of revenge is that they are more complicated and expensive, we have a lot of destructive energy, we cannot break down and build.

But if you manage to transform anger and direct it for the benefit of society, you will take off – not like a rocket, but like a helicopter, a bit heavy, but that’s for sure. First decide on a direction. I remind you that appearance is not an end in itself, new relationships are too, on the way to success they usually arise on their own, but later. Remember that traitor of yours: what he dreamed of, what he unsuccessfully achieved, what plans he failed to achieve, where he aspired and could not get. Now take a look at your strengths, what if you can achieve what hasn’t been given? Not necessarily in the exact same things, overall: he wanted popularity, to make art, to travel, to build a career – what if you had your own potential for that?

If you’re smart, you have invaluable experience – the mistakes of others that can be analyzed and avoided. You already know what he did wrong, so do it differently.

It sounds too simple to be true, but I’ve seen many examples of women leaving relationships and running in pain and anger towards the heights of success the ex could only dream of.

By the way, do not think that this is a purely female feature. Have you ever heard complaints “he did everything we wanted together for her – went tango, moved house, took her to Africa”? This is partly because he lacked the imagination to come up with a new plan for the new woman, but revenge is not to be overlooked.

If that’s too hard for you, fine. It remains to pin his picture on the dartboard, sharpen the darts and practice accuracy.