“Love does not marry”: why they want it, but live with others

In old Soviet films, the type of seductive beauty doomed to the role of mistress regularly appeared – guys “walked” with such people before marriage, and they drove modest asexual girls to the registry office. “They sleep with some and marry others,” the on-screen aunts said vengefully and pursed their lips. And it would be nice if these abandoned girls already had a bad reputation – no, often the main characters sought their attention long and hard, pushing potential suitors, turning out to be the first, and then going to their nondescript wives.

Agree, let’s say that the cinema of those years had little to do with reality, where spherical members of the Komsomol built communism in a vacuum and spread the corresponding moral principles. But even in ordinary life, men kept dropping: “I sleep with M., but respect N., “I will not take such a woman as a wife, only a clean girl” … And after several years of marriage: “A woman is a woman and the body wants sex.” They stubbornly divided women into madonnas and prostitutes. Madonna should be loved, revered, bear her children with extreme delicacy and live with her until old age. And for passion, you have to go elsewhere. Even the common stupidity “A woman should be a cook in the kitchen, a lady in the living room and a slut in the bedroom” – it’s about the fact that it’s not interesting in bed with a decent person.

True, over time it began to seem that the phrase “And then kiss my child with these lips ?!” stayed in the last century with the comedy “Analyze This”. Men today seem to have stopped denying seductive women the right to respect. Everyone agrees that it is possible to have beautiful sexual relations with the mother of your children and that the moral character of a woman depends on her human qualities, and not on her behavior in bed.

It seems like. Because recently I heard again: “And I will marry a virgin who can raise my son.” Of a young man of about twenty-five. It turns out that the illusion has not disappeared, new men have grown up, for whom sex is always dirty, which means you can’t do it with a good person.

The problem is that if before it was a generally accepted point of view that is not ashamed to express, now prudent men prefer to keep it to themselves, otherwise girls will laugh and refuse to sleep with them. Therefore, they reserve revelations until the time when they can no longer help but talk about serious relationships. And then it turns out that a man is incredibly turned on by porn videos with busty blondes, he looks for such people at parties, drags them to bed and has long-term relationships with them, but . .. “You understand that it’s not love, but just animal sex…” So, in parallel, he romantically takes care of fragile young brunettes, offers them flowers, kisses their fingertips. .. and leaves to spend the night with his mistress.

And this very blonde understands that she somehow imperceptibly entered into a relationship with a guy who cannot do without her, but at the same time she does not respect and plans to move on to a “cleaner” version.

And if you are this same brunette, then one day you will find out that the kind knight did not “protect” you for the sake of gallantry, but because he simply did not want to, and if you managed to get married at that time, lousy sex is guaranteed for several years. If you persistently seduce him before marriage and, God forbid, taste, he will understand that you are not pure enough to become his wife, he will quickly knock him off the pedestal and continue to search for one who will meet his requirements health and morals.

The most interesting thing is to listen to how these men describe their ideal woman. She should be young and inexperienced, but physically perfect. And with a fat ass, preferably. That she is full of passion, which she does not suspect – he himself will reveal to her the joys of the flesh in reasonable quantities. His mind is innocent, but lively. She doesn’t seem to think about men, but she knows how to handle them very well.

And then you realize that this is a classic image of the heroine from the novels of Danielle Steele or Barbara Cartland. A modern girl will not read them at gunpoint, but a man, it turns out, keeps this hell in his head and intends to copy life from it. So if you hear a similar description from a man, leave. He is one of those who thinks in the form of “love cannot marry”. And wherever there’s a comma in that sentence, you’ll have a bad time.