Forget these words immediately! The three most dangerous phrases in your fight

Relationships take work, not just nights out and sex. During arguments, try not to raise your voice or say anything you’ll regret later. These three sentences are clearly candidates for exclusion from your vocabulary!

By saying this, you are saying what you specifically want from your partner – what words or actions. The problem is, it’s easy to hear back, “Yes, but if you loved me, you wouldn’t ask me…” A quicker way to explain what’s needed is to say “I don’t quite understand what you are getting from these words or actions. It just occurs to me that maybe you don’t like me that much.”

People who ask this question try to resist the fact that love changes over time. How you feel in the first year of a relationship is very different from what happens in the seventh. And you can only hope that nothing will change in a fairy tale. So it’s best to say what you want, here and now: “I want to go on a date.” Or: “I want you to massage me, like before.” Will it make you more vulnerable? For sure. Will you get what you want faster? Certainly.

If that’s not a compliment, don’t even stutter! Even if this sentence contains the pure truth, a conflict will start. This is a blow below the belt, aimed at the partner’s most vulnerable spot. Instead, describe exactly what you don’t like about his behavior: “You often raise your voice, and when that happens, I feel upset and angry. So I’m asking you not to do it again.”