6 Marriage Traps We Can Fall Into

Whether we like it or not, stereotypes affect us. Is it supposed to get married? It is therefore necessary. The question is, well, who cares whether the girl is married or not? But everyone considers it their duty to find out when she is finally ringed. It doesn’t matter if the girl is single or has a boyfriend: in the first case, they will say: “What are you shooting, time is running out”, in the second: “He doesn’t take you serious, otherwise he would have married a long time ago. It is not as easy to resist as it seems. You can laugh about it, you can try to ignore these attacks, but one fine day we think: maybe something is really wrong with us, since there is still no stamp in the passport? Everything, the trap has closed. Now, a single life is not like life, but only its repetition. I will marry and live!

But if you think reasonably – is it worth spending your one and only youngster worrying about a stamp in your passport? A happy marriage is as beautiful at twenty as it is at thirty-five. Honestly.

Incredible, but true: the opinion of complete strangers sometimes affects our personal life. And this, of course, is not our fault. If a girl learns from an early age to consider her own actions in the light of the opinions of others, she will depend on this opinion even in all difficult situations. “Why did you climb a tree in your dress? You’re a girl! And don’t be ashamed, people are watching you!” – that’s how it all starts. What follows is sad and predictable: “Why did you get married then? Be patient, you’re a woman!”

It is important to understand that the feeling of guilt for certain actions in this case is not true, but imposed. Your personal life belongs to you and you alone.

It’s the same road to hell, paved with good intentions. At the beginning of a relationship, a man and a woman try to look better than they are, it’s quite natural. And the favorite game of girls in this case is the game of a wonderful hostess and the most caring woman in the world. Of course, it is very pleasant to spoil your loved one with a delicious dinner or to present him with a nice shirt. The problem is that sometimes a woman herself does not notice how she turns into a second mother for an overgrown child. And now he is no longer able to heat a bowl of soup, does not know how to turn on the washing machine and where to buy socks for himself. Well, how do you leave him, such a helpless one, don’t you? The pity trap is one of the most powerful. Well, it’s natural for us to regret.

And if you think about it, what will happen to a mature, capable person if a woman stops caring for him? Nevermind. Either he will learn to take care of himself or he will return to his mother’s wing. Understand, in general.

This, in fact, is not even a trap, it is the most natural prison cell. Because, even if the young woman had problems with self-esteem from an early age, the years of marriage should have strengthened her in the thought that, of course, someone needs her. Why did it happen the other way around? Because it was her husband who imperceptibly but systematically undermined her confidence in her. And now she is already sure that she is fat, stupid, ugly and generally old. Nobody needs it, which means there’s nothing to try to leave. Bingo! Husband can do whatever he wants – she won’t go anywhere now.

This is no longer a joke, but real family violence, albeit without aggression. There is no need to think. Here you have to run. Fast. And far.

It certainly is. Family is really the most important thing, there is nothing more important. But what is a family? It’s mutual love, it’s support, it’s the happiness of each day lived together. And in itself, the presence of a man nearby is not a family. And this is where the trap lies. The visibility of the family, as it appears to the woman, supports her: too bad if we have problems, but I am not alone, I have a back. She doesn’t think about the fact that this behind draws more resources from her than the difficulties of a solitary life would draw from it. Especially if that rear has been lying on the couch since eighth grade, pretending to be looking for a job.

The situation becomes more complicated if the couple has children. But, on the other hand, who knows, maybe there’s a man nearby that you can really start a family with, and not that kind of her. Why waste time with a surrogate?

So many young women dream of the day when a loved one says: honey, I earn enough, why do you need to work? And then they will finally have time for everything: for themselves, for their family, for their home, for their children, etc. It’s wonderful, of course, and right now I don’t want to think about the future at all. But the future is still unpredictable. And unfortunately, if the relationship has cracked, the wife seems to have nowhere to go: the husband bought the apartment, professional skills are lost over time, there is no professional experience . And how to be?

In order not to fall into this trap, you must always remember yourself. Cleaning is only fun in the first year, children grow up fast and it’s still impossible to read all the books in the world. But getting a second job while it’s time, or learning a language, is easy. So this is perhaps the safest trap – it’s very easy to get around.