8 signs it’s time to end a relationship

He retrieves the cups from the computer. He drives a car saying, “What are you doing, monkey, son of an ass!” He chews on his navel, then considers his finger thoughtfully. It’s unbearable! But the stupid habits of your dear before not only did not irritate you, but even seemed funny. The problem is not what he does. The problem is, he’s in your life at all, and it’s maddening, maddening, maddening.

At the same time, no matter what he actually achieved – you will find a reason to devalue any of his successes. Got a promotion? I sat down, well, it’s strange that it’s not for retirement. Have you played sports and built yourself an amazing body? The mind is not needed to pull the bar. Learned a foreign language? All normal people did that at the institute, actually. No, you didn’t turn into a vixen. There are just no more feelings, and the mind tries to find an excuse for it.

Little things. He asks you where you were, you reply that you met a friend, when in fact you looked in the bookstore and disappeared for two hours on the shelf with new products. Senseless and irrational lies. Why? Not why, but why. Because you subconsciously seek to shut down a part of your life for him. Your own life, not yours.

You don’t take his hand, you don’t run your fingers through his hair, you step aside if he wants to hug you. It’s all reminiscent of an appendicitis attack: you’re uncomfortable, you take a pill, and for a few hours you feel quite tolerable. And then a crazy pain writhes you. But the body warned! So here it is: now you’re ignoring your body’s signals, but soon you’ll start feeling sick and shaking from one of its smells. And it was necessary to cut in hell, without waiting for peritonitis.

It’s not like he hired you as a full-time clown, but he was having so much fun with it! And now no. Take a closer look at the men around you: any pedantic, boring cracker will sparkle with bubbly humor as soon as he falls in love. Because the easiest way to make a girl happy right now is to make her laugh. It’s a completely natural mechanism that men don’t even follow. Are the jokes over? So it’s all over.

Senseless and ruthless. For example, so that you stop reading before going to bed, and not because the light bothers it, but because you slept with whom, with him or with your book? The concentration of absurdities in his ultimatums sometimes exceeds the scale, and you do not understand at all what is happening. Nothing good, unfortunately. A man doesn’t look for a reason to reject his irritation, he creates it. On flat ground.

This is the case when you have to believe not in deeds, but in words. If you’ve been together for a long time, your boyfriend may do something just out of inertia. He’s used to chasing after work for your favorite wine, he’s used to driving if you’ve got a rough road ahead, he’s used to helping you out in the “Oh, I’ve got nothing” situation. touched, it’s all alone.” Listen to what he says when you share your experiences with him. If he no longer tells you that you can do it, that you are smart, that there is nothing to worry about, because he is there, that is a trumpet.

He absolutely has to know who you’re going shopping with on Friday. Name! He writes indignant text messages if you are 15 minutes late. He asks to tell who is Alexey Petrovich Ivanko, who for some reason is calling you. Customer? And why didn’t you talk about him – are you hiding something? Forget the expression “jealous means love”. Jealous means trying to suppress you. He is no longer interested in you, he is interested in power over you. And the more power he has, the more often he imagines himself to be Napoleon. Give him the Battle of Waterloo.