Wire game. Very true text on sick relationships

As a child, I came across a description of sadistic amusement in a book: tying a piece of meat on a string, giving it to a starving dog, then pulling it out of its esophagus – and so on many times.
Being an impressionable creature, I instantly and carefully forgot about this method, and it was only after many years that I saw and recognized it. As usual, there were people on both sides of the wire.

The string game is played like this. We find a hungry “dog” who urgently needs what you can randomly give him. A man longs for your love, a woman dreams of having a child from you, or it does not matter if you are talking about “marriage”, the main thing is that you could not and did not want to realize this dream.
But no one refuses right away, it’s a stupid waste of a resource that can keep you entertained on long winter evenings. Put a piece of meat in the palm of your hand:
– How I dream of a child! How you want love! Family is all a woman needs.
Wait for the dog to grab it and swallow it. Pull now:
– You? But you’re not the kind of person I’d like to marry. I don’t think you’ll be a good mother. I don’t like you, I’m sorry.
The dog is choking and vomiting. Wait now.
First, calm and comfort the animal, scratch its withers and belly, if you can. Who will pity the poor, if not the closest person? Spend quite a bit of time in affectionate games which are adorable, sure, but nowhere near as jittery as a string. When the animal relaxes, repeat the trick.
“You know, I would give anything to sit like this, embracing, with the person that I am… Sometimes I think we could be together… We could have beautiful children.

“And I’m sorry, I’m sorry that I can’t give you that.”
And then run for a rag. Yes, the game is messy, but fun. The dog gives off an emotion of such purity that you can drink it with glasses. Another will even try to bite you, which is usually fine.
Soothe, soothe, caress. Change tactics:
You are a bad dog! I want everything to go well for us! But look, you threw up all over the floor. You jumped on me! I slowly started to think that you could be the man of my life, but after what you did… A child of such an aggressive filthy bitch? Ha! You shattered my dream for our future.
It’s aerobatics: you take the meat out of the stomach, and it will blame and console.

The duration of the game depends on your dexterity and the credulity of the animal. But be prepared: sooner or later, there will come an awkward moment when even the stupidest bully will learn and stop responding to your meat. For example, he will get another bone or simply lose his appetite. He will turn away, try to run away, he may even lift his hind leg and pee on your bait. Bitch, she’s a slut.
You will survive a few unpleasant minutes, I warn you. Until recently, a creature that danced a polka for a higher-raised nanachka wouldn’t even move. By her behavior, she somehow devalues ​​both your reward and yourself. She is no longer your dog.
If you’re the kind of person I imagine you are – as long as you play the game, right? – Strange things can happen. You suddenly pull the meat off the wire and try to feed it from his hand, just like that, for free and for good. And, you know, she won’t. Even if you manage to convince her that there is no trick and that you are ready – really ready – to love, get married and have children. She doesn’t like this song anymore. She doesn’t love you anymore.
Playing more is pointless.
Replace the dog.

Finally – if you are on the other end of the line. Realize. Each time you vomit in pain and resentment, remember how it was the last time. Did this piece attract you again? Is it worth that searing pain in the gut? It is useless to say “don’t eat” – “don’t desire, don’t take, don’t trust”. You are still vulnerable to a sadist, but at least understand that he is a sadist, and not you – a sick bad dog.
And then run.
When the pursuit rushes after you, remember: the executioner needs the victim no less than she needs him, but only she hurts, and he is most offended. Nothing, he will survive. And it won’t get better. All the evil that was between you will not disappear, will not go to the sand, the roughness will not crumble. It’s still the same person tormenting you, he hasn’t changed, he just stopped. For a certain time.
You can even arrange the finale beautifully, with words and gestures. But even if you want to romanticize the story, keep the image of the dog and the string in mind.

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