How to break up with a man, so as not to exhaust all his nerves (okay, and he)

Your or her apartment, your favorite pub or the local restaurant where you had your first date is not an option. All these places have an emotional value for him, it will be extremely unpleasant to associate them with a tragic end. The apartment, on the other hand, is a personal territory, a conversation that can break the intimacy, the feeling of “kennel”. In addition, it is desirable that you and him have the opportunity to easily leave the premises without looking around and without asking permission. A small, quiet yard, a park, or a cafe are good options. There may be people, but not too many people: it is advisable not to leave witnesses to this unpleasant conversation.

Don’t wear a provocative tight dress to make her “regret everything”, avoid accessories and prints with aggressive accents. Such an appearance can be perceived as a challenge, a desire to struggle and not complete an unsuccessful romance. Too attractive appearance is also an attempt to establish power in this situation, a kind of manipulation. Old or stale clothes can be perceived as spitting – they say, you don’t respect me so much that you haven’t even changed your T-shirt to speak… Put on something neutral and simple, moderately comfortable and neat.

First, why would you want to seduce a man you decide to say goodbye to? And secondly, to completely forget about all the bad things, you have to spend some time at a distance. It’s like getting rid of a bad habit: since you decided to stop having martinis in the evening, you no longer have anything to do in the clubs. Until he let go.

One of the pitfalls that keep us coming back to an ex is endlessly ruminating on a relationship that no longer exists. And even though you think about how bad it was for you, in the end, you still focus on that. You need something to fill the void left in your heart by all that was going on between you. Some people need a few good movies and a packet of chocolates, others need a course in forensics or a few volumes of Victorian novels. Or a psychologist, at worst. If you don’t know exactly what can change you, choose what you really want at the moment. Besides, sport helps to chase away anger, intellectual pastimes, like lectures, to fill the head, art to rationalize emotions and creativity to understand oneself.

Do you think a new man will help you deal with what happened? Or that after a breakup, it’s time to boost your self-esteem through unbridled flirtation? You are probably right, but keep in mind: during this period, you especially clearly perceive all members of the opposite sex. Your wound is not yet healed, do not rush to embark on the adventure. Wait at least until the event of the last few days ceases to cause you emotions.

Instead of the first, you have an “imaginary friend” with whom you conduct internal dialogues at night. It usually ends in drunken texts, an attempt to mend the relationship, ridiculous seduction, and subsequent remorse. Remember that it is very difficult to break off a relationship with someone you still have something in common with. If this is unavoidable, try the deromanticization method: imagine him in a tutu, for example, draw him on paper and laugh. Works well with love addictions. Well, for the most mundane, it is enough to remember all the nuances that once annoyed you. You remember ? Well, you definitely don’t want him anymore.

A girl’s memory can rival that of a fish when it comes to love. Often, a breakup makes you “see” a man in a new light: it turns out that he was so sweet, kind, caring… What if you supported him and he could throw tantrums – think , who doesn’t, it happens?.. To avoid falling into a trap, work on your self-esteem: it is generally she who is responsible for having written romance novels about an affair of yesteryear. Self-training, self-confidence and love are capable of a lot.

Didn’t try hard enough, didn’t say anything in time, forgot three precious words? Even if that’s the case, keep in mind: it’s your nature. If you returned to this relationship, you would probably behave the same way. Doubt? And you remember yourself from a year, five or seven years ago. Other than your hair, you haven’t really changed much.

You receive signals from your body, but there are no men nearby. This trap leads to many rash acts. Especially considering the fair sex tends to mistake physiology for feelings. Fortunately, in the modern world, this problem is solved instantly. For prevention, sign up for Tinder.