Dreaming is not harmful: what they say about the character of a man from his fantasy

A grown man dreams of when he wants a global reboot. He subconsciously intends to get rid of accumulated problems and be reborn thanks to a luminous orgasm presented by an experienced prostitute. It is a kind of escape, and it is extremely rare for men to take steps to find a real “hetaera”.

What to do: It makes no sense to pretend to be a sophisticated lover who works wonders in bed if that image is completely alien to you. According to psychologists, in such a situation, the solution should not be sought in the intimate sphere, a man must first of all understand himself and understand what prevents him from changing his own life and enjoying it. Will you be there and help?

It would seem that all men are delighted with liberated and active partners in bed. And so we assiduously pretend to be “girls without complexes”, and then it suddenly turns out that he is dreaming of Sleeping Beauty… Nothing strange, again the sexualization of the problem. He was tired of constantly having to be on top. He is tired of adapting to his partner, he wants to “do it quickly”.

What to do: Yes, relax (if necessary, pretend to be a lumberjack) and stop trying to make sex “interesting”. With an ongoing relationship, he doesn’t have to be enchanting every time. And a man at least sometimes needs to be selfish in the bedroom.

In male desires and fantasies, sex, more often than many of us realize, contains elements of violence. Sometimes this is due to personality traits. Sometimes the fact that outside the bedroom a man suppresses aggression towards his partner. Sadistic tendencies can also be characteristic of those who have long been subordinate to a woman, for example, a despotic mother. This is where a psychological transference comes in: dreaming of violence against his girlfriend, a man somehow takes revenge on his authoritarian parent.

What to do: True relaxation during sex is achieved when one person can show their “bad side” to another and not be rejected. Try to offer your favorite role-playing games with elements of violence. If his case is not clinical, he will simply have to play rape. However, he still has to solve personal problems in real life.

Most often dreams of group sex are associated with a denial of responsibility in the relationship. It happens when a man feels very tired from all the relationships and connections he is going through. At the same time, he is afraid of loneliness, although, having abandoned the current situation, he could think back to what is happening.

What to do: in order not to be obsessed with participating in collective orgies, a man should not experience significant stress in life. Guide his dreams into sublimation. It is important for him to have other opportunities for emotional release: outdoor activities, interesting hobbies, hobbies, close friends, favorite work.

Usually, people with low self-esteem want to be the object of desire of spectators, who, deep down, simply crave recognition, but in everyday life they do not receive it.

What to do: Let your boyfriend know that there are plenty of ways to get admiration for your body without getting involved in a dodgy movie project. For example, you can go to fitness classes hitting others with your biceps and triceps. Believe it or not, that’s often enough for demonstrative types to satisfy themselves inwardly. And if this is still not the case, then the obsessive desire to show the world their charms already speaks of exhibitionism. And such a person will not interfere with the help of a psychologist.