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Energies and loves: free yourself from what no longer makes sense


The act of releasing all that no longer makes sense brings peace and a new beginning. Understand how to do it in the best way

A relationship that brings more pain than joy, a job that only pays the bills, friends and family that judge you. The invitation today is for us to reflect on how harmful this energy can be in our lives. Here because, Free yourselves of all that is superficial, of all that is lukewarm. Life is too short to live more or less love, more or less work, more or less friends. You want and accept that you deserve more from life, more from yourself.

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Forever is infinite while it lasts

Understanding that “forever” doesn’t exist, especially if you don’t cultivate it, if one doesn’t give in here and the other in there. It is necessary to remember and reiterate that a love must be: “infinite while it lasts”, as the poet Vinicius de Moraes said. I believe that each type of relationship brings us countless stories and it is necessary to honor and thank the learnings that both have had, but to understand that when it is no longer a contribution, it is necessary to end the cycles. Break free before this breakup gets even harder.

Allow yourself to grieve

It’s important to allow yourself to grieve a breakup. Cry if you must; practice self-care, look for people close to you who truly care for you. Free yourself, run away from those who are just curious, follow your intuition. However, by no means point fingers, as any relationship ends with 50% blame on both sides, be responsible for everything that happens to you.

If possible, take a break from social media. Breaking up shouldn’t become a race to see who gets over it first. Respect each other’s pain, practice empathy, listen to music, play sports. Make yourself interesting!

Try to stay still, rediscover your essence. It’s entirely possible that you’ve lived with someone for so long and in such a symbiotic way that you need to rediscover who you are without the other.

If the pain is severe, don’t be afraid to seek professional help. Any breakup damages self-esteem and causes self-doubt. Beyond fear of the unknown, loneliness, what is to come.

the decision is never easy

Deciding to end a relationship is also extremely difficult, especially when it involves other people, such as children.

Children must be spared from wars that are not theirs, so parents will always be parents, there is no ex-mother or ex-father, this bond will be forever.

It is normal for children to have the fantasy that they are to blame for the breakup and this already causes immense pain. Free yourself yes, but don’t use your children, regardless of their age, to point fingers or vent. Everything is already very painful for everyone and everyone will process this breakup at a different time.

Each ending is a pain, for those who decide to separate and for those who have never wanted to separate. Respect this moment and don’t lose hope, as being thankful for the cycles, honoring what was, and allowing the new to arrive is also liberating. Let life flow. Free yourselves!!!!

Text: Alessandra Assis is a psychologist specialized in relationships

Source: Terra

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