Managing emotions: how to better understand what we feel

Learn to analyze your emotions

Our emotions are the rudder of the boat of life. Emotional intelligence can have a direct impact on our relationships, our self-esteem and, above all, professional results.

Understanding emotions

Emotions are associated with a bodily reaction, activated by neurotransmitters and hormones released by the brain. Feelings are shaped by experiences, beliefs, memories and behavioral profile.

To better understand

When a zebra is hunted, it runs, escapes and its body releases adrenaline as a survival instinct. The same happens with humans, when they are faced with an unknown situation or some trigger that brings fear and anxiety. But there is an important difference: the zebra acts instinctively and immediately after running away he no longer thinks about it and goes back to living her life normally. Not being human, they continue to remember events, recording the triggers and, even if they are in an escape situation, the mind activates the same components. This harms our entire body, as we constantly release harmful substances, non-stop adrenaline.

Emotions: is there control?

It is a fact that we cannot control emotions. The feeling is human, it is part of us. We will feel anger, fear, joy, jealousy, frustration, and euphoria throughout our lives. Emotions pass through us, but we have the power to command how we react to them. I can’t control my emotions, but my behavior towards him can. Then analyze the emotion, observe and choose the best way to act.

Being intelligent = ability to solve complex problems. Your emotional intelligence is extremely important to everything in life. There is no such thing as a bad emotion, there is such a thing as bad behavior when certain emotions appear!

Emotional intelligence skills

Daniel Goleman is considered the father of emotional intelligence, he states that to be emotionally intelligent we need 5 skills:

Self-knowledge: Identifying what awakened my feelings and what works for me.

Self-management: managing emotions that arise. We choose what strikes us through the meaning we give to words and situations. Reframe and filter what you choose to bring into your life.

Self-motivation: knowing your strengths and how to work on each of them.

Managing the emotions of others: empathy, active listening, ability to improve my relationships.

Relationships: respect the limits and processes of each being.

Let’s do some practice?

An exercise that helps in all these aspects is keeping an emotion diary. Every day do a self-analysis, put on paper your feelings, the emotions that have passed through you. This exercise will help you bring more clarity to your thoughts, as well as make you understand the points you can improve.

Ask yourself: what type of event will I let into my life to choose what type of emotion I will experience!

Source: Terra

Ben

Ben Stock is a lifestyle journalist and author at Gossipify. He writes about topics such as health, wellness, travel, food and home decor. He provides practical advice and inspiration to improve well-being, keeps readers up to date with latest lifestyle news and trends, known for his engaging writing style, in-depth analysis and unique perspectives.