Fetishism only becomes a problem when the person is so focused on it that he cannot experience pleasure in any other way, which limits his sexual life.
The expression “anything goes within four walls” is often used. But what really happens in this intimate place? It seems that fetishes are increasingly present and part of the sexual life of Brazilians and the rest of the world. For many they are synonymous with creativity, new experiences and more exciting sex.
What is a fetish?
The term comes from the Latin “faticius”, which means something artificial or invented. Widely used to name objects in the rituals of ancient civilizations, a fetish is an object that becomes the target of idolatry, to which magical or supernatural properties are attributed.
A sexual fetish, therefore, is an erotic attraction to some body part, object or situation that ends up generating sexual pleasure. Famous examples are high heels, the famous handcuffs and foot fetishism.
These objects can be part of sexual fantasy, that is, ideas, mental images and desires that motivate sexual desire, and do not necessarily have to be put into practice.
3 types of fetishes
1.Cuckold:
Explained very simply, “cuckolding” is a practice in which a man gains sexual arousal by listening to narration or watching his partner have sex with another. It is one of the most common fetishes and is growing more and more in Brazil.
To give you an idea, the search frequency for the term on Google has increased by around 800% in the last 15 years. The amount of pornography related to this topic is also high on the Internet. And we cannot forget the “cuckquean”, the female version of the fetish, less common, but also present.
The term horned comes from the cuckoo bird. The female will look for other nests to lay her eggs and the male knows it. She leaves them to these birds who will take care of them. In sexual fetishism, it is men who allow and desire their women – in a monogamous relationship – to have intercourse with other men and for them to participate in some way.
We might talk about betrayal, but it’s something we agree on. In every fetish everything is discussed and the rules are clear, so that there is no other interference and it does not generate discomfort. Those who do are people who like to feel in this place, because it is a relationship of power. From the moment you agree for the person to move on to another relationship, you are the one who allows it and wants to know the details or be together.
2. BDSM
BDSM stands for “Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism and Masochism” and gained notoriety with the film “Fifty Shades of Grey,” based on the best-selling book by British author EL James.
The term refers to some practices in which those involved find pleasure in pain. In the case of Bondage, for example, the person is normally tied and subjected to the desires of the other. So BDSM is considered a fetish – when put into practice -, but it can also be limited to the sphere of sexual fantasy.
In BDSM there are different levels of intensity of practice, which can vary from scratching and swearing, to the use of whips and gags. Discover some attitudes that characterize this fetish:
- Mild physical aggression, such as slaps and scratches;
- Oath;
- Whip;
- Role playing games (always strengthen the relationship between dominant and dominated);
- Punishments that may involve confinement in cabinets or cages;
- Immobilization using ropes, handcuffs, chains and adhesive tape;
- Prevent the person from reaching orgasm when approaching it;
- Obedience (wearing and eating only what[a] bossy[a] send);
- Gagging;
- Use of collars;
- Leather clothes that make mobility difficult during sex.
3. oscillation
OR oscillation it is defined by couples who have sexual relations with other people and, in most cases, both are present in the act.
Most believe that what happens is just an exchange of couples, but, in practice, the fetish can take place with another couple, a single man, a single woman or any other type of structure that the imagination allows.
OR oscillation It’s practically a lifestyle, ranging from specific clubs to apps to connect with people who experience their sexuality in the same way.
It is worth highlighting the importance of communication and consent on both sides when going through this experience. This is because many couples end up having problems in their relationship because they feel insecure, jealous, afraid of abandonment and many other concerns that did not exist before swinging.
After all, watching your partner have sex with someone else in “real life” can bring on thousands of previously unknown feelings and sensations.
Is having a fetish a problem?
Some people may consider fetishes a “problem”, but Jairo Bouer explains that they are only considered such when one party does not accept the idea, or when the person is so focused on it that they cannot experience pleasure in any way. other way. , which significantly limits sexual life.
When you have something very specific, like, “This is the only way I can feel excited,” you limit the experiences a little bit. The fetish is beautiful when it is another possibility,” says Jairo.
Therefore, the psychiatrist concludes that the fetish is something different and can serve as a kind of “spice” for sex, but it should not be the only thing in sexual life and should always be something consensual and enjoyed by all people involved in the relationship. Otherwise it’s better to stay in the fantasy.
Source: Terra
Ben Stock is a lifestyle journalist and author at Gossipify. He writes about topics such as health, wellness, travel, food and home decor. He provides practical advice and inspiration to improve well-being, keeps readers up to date with latest lifestyle news and trends, known for his engaging writing style, in-depth analysis and unique perspectives.
