A generous feeling sees qualities in us that are not always evident and makes us believe in our potential
Way back in 1902, at King’s College Hospital in London, what we now call ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) made its first appearance in medical literature, described at the time as a “defect of moral control”. However, it was not until 1980, with the publication of the third edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-III), that ADHD was formally recognized. It was only in the 2013 edition of the DSM-5 that it received its current definitions.
A journey with ADHD before DSM-5
I was born in 1971, carrying with me the typical signs of a child with ADHD. However, at that time, the diagnosis was unknown and specific treatments, such as drugs or therapies, were not affordable for a family with limited resources at home, so my restlessness, difficulty concentrating and unsatisfactory academic performance led to pessimistic predictions about the my academic future.
The power of a mother’s belief
But my mother, Adelma, was different. She saw beyond, believing in a promising future for me, despite the doubts of others. Even when I began to doubt myself, she remained steadfast in her belief. “I know my son, he’ll go further than you think,” she said.
His belief was not unfounded; He saw in me qualities such as charisma, creativity, sociability and resilience, attributes often ignored by society and the educational system of the time.
Instead of pushing for academic excellence, he encouraged me to find my own path to learning. It wasn’t until after the book came out Emotional intelligenceby Daniel Goleman, in 1995, whose importance we learned emotional and social skillsthe ones my mother intuitively appreciated and cultivated in me.
Legacy of love
The most transformative good he offered me was love: a Love generous gift that she herself had not received in the same measure. Therefore, in this March column, I honor the first woman in my life, without whom I would not be who I am.
The love I received from my mother and my wife Janine is my source of inspiration and security. To my mother I echo the verses of the song “Dona Cila”, by Maria Gadú: “Of all the love I have, you gave me half, saving my soul from life, smiling and making me mine”.
By Rossandro Klinjey – Vida Simples magazine
Psychologist, writer, lecturer, co-founder of Educa. On this Egotrip, turbulence is fleeting.
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Ben Stock is a lifestyle journalist and author at Gossipify. He writes about topics such as health, wellness, travel, food and home decor. He provides practical advice and inspiration to improve well-being, keeps readers up to date with latest lifestyle news and trends, known for his engaging writing style, in-depth analysis and unique perspectives.
