However common it is, many mothers suffer from deep sadness when they live the physical distance of the sprouts that children grow up and leave home. Normal life continues like this, but it is not always easy, especially for mothers, who need to face complex feelings that involve this new phase. It is empty nest syndrome, […]
It doesn’t matter how common it is, many mothers suffer from profound sadness when they live the physical distance of the shoots
Children grow up and leave the house. Normal life continues like this, but it is not always easy, especially for mothers, who need to face complex feelings that involve this new phase. It is the empty nest syndrome, which Thaís Borges understands well!
When children leave the house: a dream shared with mothers
On the eve of Mother’s Day, the author of I led the bubble, Leave the automatic standards, break and reprogram the destination Celebrate the realization of a dream shared with your eldest son: the opportunity to expand the horizons and build new paths.
When Thaí looks at his trajectory, he recognizes how many dreams, which once seemed distant, can be reborn in the new generations. Black Woman, born on the outskirts of the northern area of San Paolo, grew up believing that having a house, a popular car and making small trips would be huge.
It’s time to leave the nest
Today, seeing the 18 -year -old daughter Esther who is on board for an exchange in San Diego, California, Thaí sees more than the realization of a personal desire: he sees the life cycle expanding, showing that dreams also evolve over time. “This exchange is our dream. Something that represents all the possibilities that one day I have not had, but now we can build together,” he says excited.
Thaís will make a point of accompanying Esther in the first week of adaptation, living next to his daughter in the first moments of this new phase. “Being able to be with her in this start is a gift, an opportunity for which I am deeply grateful,” he shares.
Despite the narrow heart, the investor Angelo maintains serenity. By encouraging this journey from the beginning, he believes that even growing children is to teach to trust his own wings to break the world. “It hurts to see them leave, but it is a pain made of pride and hope”, reflects.
The daily contact will be essential
Technology, with its video calls, messages and daily records, will be an important ally to keep the bond nearby, even at a distance. For the Thas, these small gestures will help heating their hearts and focusing on their routine and their life purpose.
Thaís also believes that the experience of independence will be transformative for Esther. For the first time, the young woman will have the opportunity to face the challenges of everyday life, exercising courage, responsibility and self -knowledge. “It is in practice, in front of the real situations, that it will develop the strength that already brings within itself,” comments the consultant.
Although independence is essential, Esther will have a support network, it will remain with an American family and will be supported by a Thar friend who lives in the city. In addition, he was oriented to look for a reception in local groups, university or community activities.
For Mother’s Day, Thaís leaves a message to those who also live the emotion of the distance:
“We are a nest, but we must also be wings. He can pride of seeing our children breaking the world is bigger than desire. We celebrate not only those around, but also those who bring our dreams and our love for the world.”
The transition affects mother and children
It is important to emphasize that both are in a moment of transition: their child in search of autonomy and independence and parents in a new moment, in which daily practices are room for a new life format. And this can be very good, since it is the healthy path of development. But we know that the “empty nest” can generate feelings of sadness and loneliness, as explained by the psychologist Cecilia Rocha. “I usually give some suggestions so that this phase occurs in the most fluid way possible,” says the professional.
Tips to face the empty nest
He listed eight tips for parents and children to face the most slightly slightly empty nest:
- It welcomes the feeling of desire and sadness. Although they are not pleasant emotions to feel, these emotions are not bad, they are signs that you have a profound connection of affection and this affection will remain.
- With time and adaptation to this period, sadness will make the place to satisfaction and joy in experience, each in its own way, this new phase of life.
- Always remember: physical distance does not necessarily mean an emotional distance
- The emotional approach and intimacy should continue to be favored and today technology can help us a lot with this problem and contribute significantly to the reduction of the sense of distance and solitude.
- Combine days and times per week to talk to the video. In everyday life, short vocal messages are also ways of sharing events. Another thing that can be very interesting is to record tours and images as a way to divide the expert experience
- Plan lunches or dinners digitally together. Therefore, keep the conversation updated and create a routine for connection
- In addition to connecting to your child, reconnect with you! With your child at Exchange it is natural for you to have more free time. Take the opportunity to return with that hobbies you had to put aside to dedicate yourself to motherhood. Or look for something new, that you are interested in knowing and learning. This can do very well for you and make your days lighter, cheerful and full of new activities and people!
- And don’t forget: exchange is an excellent growth opportunity for both the mother and the baby!
Source: Terra
Ben Stock is a lifestyle journalist and author at Gossipify. He writes about topics such as health, wellness, travel, food and home decor. He provides practical advice and inspiration to improve well-being, keeps readers up to date with latest lifestyle news and trends, known for his engaging writing style, in-depth analysis and unique perspectives.
