If parenthood can be summed up in one sentence, it’s probably going to be something along the lines of “inner turmoil forever.” The father of the child, most likely, will not ask you for moral support, but this does not mean that he does not worry about the child while he grows inside and does not worry for the rest of his life. That is why.
1. What if one of you dies?
It sounds terrible, but this irrational fear is hard to get rid of. For some men, pregnancy is a constant search for trouble, a symptom of which may be one of your cramps or ailments. Indeed, during and after pregnancy, all kinds of bad things can really happen, even with the current level of development of medicine. The problem is that he is an outside observer, he cannot assess the strength of your pain and do something about it. And from this fear only increases, and he will send you to the doctor whenever the child does not kick for more than two hours.
2. How to take you to the hospital
For you, it may not be so serious. You have already packed your suitcase and you know what to look out for. But for him, this is the most important part of the process: he must be sure that you will not give birth in the car on the way to the hospital. You’ve done all the work, and it only got a small part, and it has to be done perfectly.
3. Worrying he’s not ready
This is the case for most future parents. You take responsibility for a new person and you cannot run away from it. But if you yourself feel a connection with the child while he is still inside, your partner can only feel kicking from the inside with his hand and waiting for the child to be born.
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4. Feeling that he can harm the child
Pregnancy is like baking cookies in the oven: you can’t open them until they’re golden brown. He is afraid to kick you in the stomach in a dream, to hurt a child during sex (which is impossible) and much more.
5. Understand that you can’t train “father skills”
You can learn to change the oil in a car or build a foundation, but most children’s manipulations are learned only on a ready-made child: you can put a diaper on a doll several times, but this doesn’t get you any closer to dressing a newborn. And this naturally causes internal panic.
6. He doesn’t know how to raise a daughter
Maybe it seems to him that everything is easier with his son (after all, he himself was a boy, after all), but what to do with a girl? And separately, he is afraid to say it out loud.
7. Doesn’t like to buy children’s things
It is unlikely that he will also be affected by the size of children’s socks or briefs with giraffes. And this upsets him: it seems that he is completely bankrupt.
8. Slight irritation due to your hormonal surges
Again, he can’t feel it and help you. And to the best of his ability, he tries to answer stupid requests and calm you down if you’re sobbing because of the advertisement for children’s things.
9. Fear of having a “father’s body”
That is, never going to the gym again, getting a belly fat and stuff like that (although all of that isn’t true). If he’s really scared of it, try letting him go to the rocking chair (preferably in exchange for him letting go of you later!).
10. Worry about whatever worries you.
He won’t show it, but he will suffer just the same from every untimely sneeze. At the same time, if you are upset, he must somehow support you, so you must be torn.
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